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The best thing about last weekend was just getting to hang with Chris. Experiencing time together.
Marriage is an amazing journey. A challenge. Such a give and take. Breathe in; breathe out. Give love; receive love. Patience. Passion. Partnership. It is amazing how much having a child impacts your relationship with your spouse: good and not-so-good. For us, it has been a challenge. And one of the best things to ever happen to either of us. How to make it all work...keep the passion, give Simon what he needs, and each get what we, as individuals and as a married couple, need to feel fulfilled in our lives. Being able to get away for a couple days, just the two of us, is such a great reminder of why we fell in love in the beginning. And why we continue today.
This quote came up on a blog awhile back:
And yesterday I had a breakthrough while going to the bathroom at Burger King (because you know that a helping of grease is always good after an awesome night at a concert where a few and more good beers were consumed). Sometimes I can tell when real change is brewing within myself. Things start to fall into place. I can feel it on the inside. (Man, this is why I always carry something to write on - things come at the mose interesting moments.) It was a reflection on the idea of experiences. That I want more of my life's fulfillment to come from experiences rather than things. This is one of those ideas that I have always known, been aware of, but not really adopted fully into my heart. Getting filled up through experiences, through being with people, through creating, through really being present with Chris, through learning, through playing with and teaching Simon...rather than trying to fill myself up by buying more or spending my precious time wanting more (and never really feeling fulfilled past the initial high of something "new").
Sometimes I guess it takes a Burger King bathroom to bring it all together.
And Chris, I love you. Thank you for such a nice weekend.
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Thanks for having this Ali - you are really a brave woman for letting us into your soul on a daily basis. Leaving for MN in the morning - see you there?
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Bathroom inspiration is the best! hehehehehe! Loved this Ali!
Truly beautiful inspiration!
Sounds like a perfect weekend!
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yep, it's true. I just wish my everyday life was more fulfilling. Cleaning, laundry, errands, and washing the dishes just doesn't do it for me. And there's not enough time for creating and learning when all the other stuff gets in the way. I don't need stuff; I need a butler. Then my life would really be complete. ;-)
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Girl you are cracking me up with your Burger King talk. Too crazy you are and to even have pen and paper in hand at that moment???
I'm glad your epiphany was a postive one. I love your outlook on life!!
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That's awesome, Ali! I like hearing about how you balance the "mommy life" with the "couple life". It's great that you two can get away like this!
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You most definitely have a refreshing and calming perspective. Love the insight you share, Ali. -C
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Hold the pickles...hold the relish...a-ha moments don't upset us.....
hehe.
very cool.
Let's here it for frickin' experience!
It always reminds me how important and good it is to get away. Dan and I don't do it enough...but when we do, there is always one point in the evening where we get weepy...and we connect. And remember why "we" are such a good thing....
: )
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I love how you put things in perspective. I read what you write, then look at the photo and it clicks together so perfectly. Thank you for sharing!
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I, too, love your perspective. Mike and I don't get away often enough. Last winter we stole away to Vermont for a few days for our 5th anniversary while leaving Anna with the grandparents. We really haven't been away much since Noah's been born. We connect, though -- usually in the evenings after the little ones are in bed. We're religious about getting them in bed early (Noah at 6:45 and Anna around 7:15ish) so that they get a good night sleep and we get some "alone time." Glad to hear you had a fab time. :)
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I dont think that Dan and I have gotten away for the weekend since Tristan was born. We do take the occasional evening to get out..but def. not enough. Glad you had a great weekend.
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I just wanted to say in general that I love you blog and it was you that made me get one myself...check by :)
A fellow pea and list lover!
Lisa
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Ali, that is so great that you and Christ had some time away together this weekend. I am aching for some time alone with my husband. I love your thoughts on experiences.
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Inspired again by the amazing Ali. :)
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Thanks for sharing your insight... you always give me something to think about and ponder throughout the day. I tend to take my husband for granted many days and neither of us take the time to really be thankful for each other and for those moments where we can be alone together. I'll be adding this to my to-do list for today. Ironically, on Sunday we did a mini-photo shoot and we got a great picture of us together. It's one of my favorites and it brings to mind all the reasons I love my husband, reasons I should share with him more often.
Thanks, as always, Ali!
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