"And I'll just go for it."
Tags:I had one of those experiences with Simon last night on our way to the swimming pool reminding me once again that he is just downright awesome.
Drive-through McDonald's is one of our things. We go through a pretty stable routine each time: ordering a Happy Meal for the toy (especially Kung Fu Panda toys - he and Chris saw the movie last weekend) and chicken nuggets; talking about the number one window + the number two window; choosing between OJ, chocolate milk, or the occasional Sierra Mist.
Let me step back a minute and preface this by saying we have been having some major food battles lately. I hate the word battle because that implies a winner and a loser...our goal is to get him to try something new at each meal and take one very small bite as a "no thank you" bite (along with getting some variety into his diet). Trust me, it has been one of the biggest challenges in our experience as parents.
Back to last night and the story at hand. I put in the regular order for a Happy Meal with chicken nuggets. After pulling out and heading down the road I hand the box back to him and he pulls out a cheeseburger. On past adventures this could have resulted in a major upset (or me simply turning around and going back to McDonald's to correct our order). I see the burger in the rearview mirror as I am checking the clock to see how much time we have to make it to the pool before the "sorry we are full" sign goes up. In the span of secondsI am wondering to myself which is going to be worse: not getting the expected chicken nuggets or not getting to swim?
But he didn't freak out.
"Hey, here's a hamburger," he said and started to pass it to me. No whining. No crying. No freaking out.
Somehow I managed to say, "How about trying that cheeseburger tonight?" I braced a bit as I waited for the issue to escalate.
He simply said, "Okay."
It was an "okay" in a super cheerful manner that demonstrated no indication of ever having issues with different foods. At that point I should have just pulled over and did the craziest celebration dance possible that he was even okay with the idea of opening the package let alone take a bite.
I tried super hard not to make a big deal about. "That sounds like a plan," I said as I peeked into the rear-view mirror to see if he was really going to actually for real take a bite. And he did. No big deal. No fanfare. No saying "this is gross." No protesting. Just a little nibble bite along the edge and then he set it back down on the plastic wrapper in his lap.
"Did you like it?" I asked?
"I did."
In my head I was freaking out. Holy cow this could be it. This could be the breakthrough we have been hoping for and working towards related to not making a huge deal out of trying a new food.
"Are you going to eat some more?"
"Yes. I like hamburgers."
We drove along and he munched on his french fries amidst telling me stories about the Higglytown Heroes episode he had been watching on the computer before leaving for the pool.
"Are you going to eat any more hamburger?" I asked as we continued on our way.
"Yes, I'll just go for it."
In reality he didn't even hit the meat, cheese, ketchup or anything except the bun.
But man, what a great start.
Go for it, Simon, go for it.

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I can totally understand why this is such a big victory because of my own son who has autism.
I loved reading about this experience. Thanks so much for sharing it.
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awesome moment... thanks for sharing it. I love the comment at the end and it brought tears to my eyes.
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What a great day for you both!
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How very cool is that?! Go Simon Go!! (I think we should also have pics of you doing the celebration dance Ali!!)
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WHOOHOO! Isn't being a parent the most amazing thing? You handled it like a pro Ali! Autism or not, kids have so many quirks that we have to negotiate and sometimes it is all about how well WE handle the situation that dictates how well THEY handle it! Way to go on that burger Simon! :)
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And go Simon! Trying something new - even a cheeseburger bun - is a huge accomplishment. :-)
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Hang in there! It gets better. My son only ate 2 or 3 things and had serious texture issues. Little by little he started to try new things (ex first taco meat, then added cheese, then into a shell...) He has gotten so adventurous that on our last vacation he was ordering for himself and eating things like escargot, duck and lobster! Just take baby steps. Simon will discover that there are wonderful new tastes waiting for him!
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It's all about the little victories in autism isn't it?
My sister and I (not sure if you remember us from CKU-Detroit) have been experiencing those too. At our house we have had some anger issues. Caleb was mad at his Daddy because he made him take the time to use the potty (7 year olds would rather play on the water slide than potty!), after he went and we got cleaned up he went up to his Daddy, on his own... and said "Daddy, I'm sorry I was mean at you." Hugged him, then went on. I was in quiet tears and my husband asked if I made him do that. No, I did not.
Little victories.
Sounds like our sons are winning.
Hugs,
Jo Ellen
p.s. we have major food issues too. I think I may start your idea (try something new every day).
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Go for it Simon!
awesome!
kiss kiss
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I have a mildly autisic son, with major food issues. I can totally relate, I called my mom one night, screaming "HE ATE A GREEN BEAN"
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That is great!!! Not to sound like a wimp but after reading you entry there was al ittle tear in my eye. We are going through a hard time right now with our 6 yrold. He has also been a terrible eater but has gotten increasingly worse to the point were we thought he was not gaining.And finally the md listened to me and said yes he does look like he is laking calories.So after blood work we are waiting to see if he has a absorbtion problem. but in the mean time we have to add alot of calories. example pedisure, whole milk, whole cheese. the food log is helping. I will be sure to tell him about Simon's saying"just go for it"
Have a great day!!!!
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We have always had the one bite rule. My 'kids' are 26 and almost 23 now and they will still try one bite to see if they like it yet! They have become very adventurous eaters over the years. Keep up the good work...
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very awesome, i'm doing the happy dance for you guys. it just makes my heart happy to watch simon's progress!
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Wow...I just got goosebumps reading that Ali.
What a wonderful story.
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What a wonderful breakthrough! I'm so happy for your family.
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job very well done, Simon and Ali. I believe lots of your successes with Simon can be contributed to your calmness and letting Simon lead. Sometimes it is best just to sit back and watch. Amazing stuff can happen then.
Our son has Autism and has never had food issues, but rather sound issues(too loud, too high pitch, etc) I'm right there with the happy dance on those small victories.
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As the parent of TWO extremely picky children - I alert Simon! LOL I absolutely KNOW how very huge that is.
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I swear I typed "salute" Simon and Not "alert". LOL No idea where my brain was on that one. LOL
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I have a six year old son too. And he is the pickiest eater!!! So I totally get your joy. My son will not eat any pasta, not even mac and cheese. What kid doesn't eat mac and cheese??? I love that you share your life and stories with us. I started following you thru scrapbooking, but now I follow for the pure joy of the stories you share and inspiration you give. Thank you so much!!!!!
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You know, this made my day too. My son is 12 and we have had food "issues" from the first day he ate solid food.
I have never had him officailly diagnosed with Autisim but he meets more than half of the markers. Freak outs over change in the norm, are our biggest dilemna.
My heart goes out to you~It's the small victories that seem to bring the greatest joy!
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