The Evolution Of My Story
Tags:It's always been my goal to authentically share my story both in my scrapbooks and in this online space.
To me that means addressing the good, the bad, the beautiful, the successes, the challenges - the very real pieces of my life.
As many of you have noticed, and some have commented and emailed, Chris has been mostly absent for some time from the stories and photos. He has decided that he wants something different with his life and we are in the process of getting a divorce.
Chris continues to maintain an active role in the kid's lives.
There is nothing easy about this.
It's very hard and very stressful and very sad.
And yet, the story continues for all of us. For him and me. For the kids and me. For him and the kids. And there are many, many things I have to be thankful for in my life.
I've always maintained, and taught in my workshops, that not all stories need to be told.
But here, in this space, it's important to me that there's a general awareness of this change. This will allow me to more authentically share my story going forward.
A few months ago I asked for your prayers, your positive energy, your wishes of strength and peace, and your compassion. I'd humbly ask for your continued kindness as this specific chapter closes and new ones begin.
As you consider leaving a comment I would also humbly ask that you focus on something positive, compassionate and/or uplifting. Our heartfelt intent is to maintain a positive relationship as we move forward in our lives.
Wishing all of you, especially any of you who may be experiencing something similar within your own family, peace during the Christmas season.

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Always remember when things are not going as planned that this too shall pass.There is always beauty after the rain and the storms.Thank you Ali for the inspiration that you continue to give! I will be praying for abundant blessings in your new chapter and the new year!
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I've been following your blog for a while now and I want to thank you for being so open & honest with your audience. Last week, I went through a miscarriage at 5 months and the first thing I did was write about it publicly. While you never wish harm on people, it always feels good to know that you are not alone in facing challenges in life. I wish you peace of mind and comfort of heart this holiday season and thank you for being a human - not just a character or "brand." Hugs!
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Wow Ali. You are loved by many. And I am one. PS. Christmas package on it's way - stand by!
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Ali, I have been hoping and praying that this wasn't happening to you! My heart breaks for you and the kids that you are experiencing this awful part of life. I wish you peace, joy and happiness as you begin this next chapter in your book of life. Prayers for all of you!
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Ali,
You've been on my mind so much of late as we both work (simultaneously)through loss, through grief (death of my sister/your divorce)through changes, and on to moving forward. (Life really does have to progress and to move on).Trying to stay positive and find joy in each day, no matter how small. Baby stepping to the next moment we encounter, if that's what it takes. Please know that you and your family are in my prayers. Please remember that (to quote The Help) "You are kind. You are smart. You are important." And most importantly, you are loved. (By so, so many!)
Huge cyber hugs and positive thoughts headed your way.
Suz
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I wish you a Merry Christmas with your family.
Go ahead, Ali have much capacity to improve, you're strong, you're positive, generous and you, have made many people happy with your art and your philosophy of life and that happiness back to you.
A new road in front, new positive challenges.
Kisses and hugs.
Beatriz Penas
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"God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference".
You can do this Ali, I just know you can. My heart breaks for you but I know you can get through this. Wishing you and the kids all my love. corinnexxx
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I love that Joseph Campbell quote and it reminds me of another favorite quote of mine.
"The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything."
They're both good reminders that you can't always change the ways things happen, and that really the only thing you ever have control over is how you react to things as they unfold.
How generous and brave of you to share your story. Best wishes to you and your family during this time.
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I'm so very sorry that your family is going through this rough time. But, having gone through my sister's divorce with her, I can say now that everything happens for a reason. You will come out of this stronger than before...nothing about this is easy now, but please remember you have a world of people who support you and love you - even more so now that you've shared your personal story with us. Best wishes, Ali!!
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Just wanted to post to let you know my heart is hurting for you, but also to echo many to say you are an amazing woman who's been dealt a painful blow. Thank you for being authentic, for choosing to be vulnerable and share this and allow me--and many, many more--to help you, even if it's just with this simple comment here. You are definitely stronger than you may believe now. Sending you prayers and thoughts of peace and acceptance and love. :)
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I don't know how is your sorrow in this moment, but i think that you're able to look at tomorrow with joy... I wish you that the light of Christmas comes into your heart ... a big hug
Buon Natale
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i have too words for you in Maori (2nd language of NZers)
KIA KAHA
stay strong
arohanui (big love) from Mandyb
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Ali, you know that I hold you dear to my heart. Not all stories are happy ones, nor are all of them easy to share. You taught us this in Italy this year. By sharing your story with all of us here, you have taken the first step in healing. I know it wasn't an easy decision. Please remember that you are loved by so many and there are many, many arms to hold you up. Wishing for all of you to be surrounded by peace and love during these holidays, I am thinking of you and sending you many hugs.
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Oh, Ali, my heart goes out to you. You're so right that sometimes, for authenticity's sake, we must sometimes reveal things we'd rather keep private. But now that your readers know, you are free to allow this part of your story show itself - as you choose - on your pages. And it IS part of your story. I so respect your honesty and your choice to maintain a positive relationship with Chris. I only know you from reading your blog, of course, but I've learned that you're a wise and compassionate woman and I would expect nothing less. I pray you'll find strength and peace as your family moves forward. Thanks for sharing your life with us. I wish I could give you a big hug. :)
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Prayers of strength and peace for you and your precious children. The love & devotion of your extended family is amazing. It seems they will be a wonderful source of support and strength and a wonderful blessing. All the best to you.
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I am so sad to hear about what happened. Relationship is messy and needs a lot of work. I'm not a religous person, but I'm sending you positive thoughts, strength, and courage. You are a strong woman. I know you can take a big step into the next chapter of your life. Don't forget your kids love you and need you. We all love you here and will give you support all the way.
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Hugs, hugs, hugs to all of you from Finland!
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Ali, you are one of the most giving people I know. Its time for us to give back to you. I hope you feel the love of all of us out here who read your blog. I will be praying for you and your family. You are fortunate to have loving parents for a source of support and strenght.
I wish that there was more I could do for you but just know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. I wish only the best for you. A door may have closed but somewhere a window is opening.
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I'm sorry to hear this news. I've been following your blog for a while and enjoy the way you celebrate the beauty of everyday life. Sending prayers your way.
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You give so much that I cannot select the perfect OLW to express my gratitude, awe, and admiration of you. As it has been said, your honesty is refreshing. Thank you and wishing you all the best during this transition. Things will change, but different does not have to be bad. You will make it great.
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