"And I'll just go for it."
Tags:I had one of those experiences with Simon last night on our way to the swimming pool reminding me once again that he is just downright awesome.
Drive-through McDonald's is one of our things. We go through a pretty stable routine each time: ordering a Happy Meal for the toy (especially Kung Fu Panda toys - he and Chris saw the movie last weekend) and chicken nuggets; talking about the number one window + the number two window; choosing between OJ, chocolate milk, or the occasional Sierra Mist.
Let me step back a minute and preface this by saying we have been having some major food battles lately. I hate the word battle because that implies a winner and a loser...our goal is to get him to try something new at each meal and take one very small bite as a "no thank you" bite (along with getting some variety into his diet). Trust me, it has been one of the biggest challenges in our experience as parents.
Back to last night and the story at hand. I put in the regular order for a Happy Meal with chicken nuggets. After pulling out and heading down the road I hand the box back to him and he pulls out a cheeseburger. On past adventures this could have resulted in a major upset (or me simply turning around and going back to McDonald's to correct our order). I see the burger in the rearview mirror as I am checking the clock to see how much time we have to make it to the pool before the "sorry we are full" sign goes up. In the span of secondsI am wondering to myself which is going to be worse: not getting the expected chicken nuggets or not getting to swim?
But he didn't freak out.
"Hey, here's a hamburger," he said and started to pass it to me. No whining. No crying. No freaking out.
Somehow I managed to say, "How about trying that cheeseburger tonight?" I braced a bit as I waited for the issue to escalate.
He simply said, "Okay."
It was an "okay" in a super cheerful manner that demonstrated no indication of ever having issues with different foods. At that point I should have just pulled over and did the craziest celebration dance possible that he was even okay with the idea of opening the package let alone take a bite.
I tried super hard not to make a big deal about. "That sounds like a plan," I said as I peeked into the rear-view mirror to see if he was really going to actually for real take a bite. And he did. No big deal. No fanfare. No saying "this is gross." No protesting. Just a little nibble bite along the edge and then he set it back down on the plastic wrapper in his lap.
"Did you like it?" I asked?
"I did."
In my head I was freaking out. Holy cow this could be it. This could be the breakthrough we have been hoping for and working towards related to not making a huge deal out of trying a new food.
"Are you going to eat some more?"
"Yes. I like hamburgers."
We drove along and he munched on his french fries amidst telling me stories about the Higglytown Heroes episode he had been watching on the computer before leaving for the pool.
"Are you going to eat any more hamburger?" I asked as we continued on our way.
"Yes, I'll just go for it."
In reality he didn't even hit the meat, cheese, ketchup or anything except the bun.
But man, what a great start.
Go for it, Simon, go for it.

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Isn't funny the things that excite us when we're "grown up"...I know what you mean though, your insides are SCREAMING and CHEERING the remarkable milestone.
Those moments really rank up there don't they? Oh how wonderful they are*!*
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Ali, I am SOOO excited for you! I felt your every emotion as I read your McDonald's story. I have a 4 year old boy with Autism and we are going through the same thing - McDonald's drive thru and everything. We're still stuck on just the fries though. But thanks for the encouragement. You are inspiring! I met you personally at CK Scrapbooking Convention in Bellevue last November and I've felt an "autism mother bond" with you ever since. Thanks for your inspiration!
Sherida
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One thing first...I just LOVE the way you share your heartfelt peeks into the Edwards home...It is vastly appreciated.
Two things that helped us get through the years of picky eating...
1. Serving foods they don't like in front of their friends who do and watching them devour it.
2. Putting food you really want them to eat (like veggies, or protein) on a little snack plate before supper, when they are at their hungriest. Then you can relax more at dinner together..
3. I know I said two things, but here is one more. I never, never, made a special meal for any of my kids who would not eat what was for supper. I just told them, OK, but nothing until breakfast. They didn't starve, ate a bigger than normal breakfast, and gradually tried more and more things. They are 21, 18, and 15 now, and are fantastic eaters.
Hugs...we have all been there!
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very cool ali! that IS a huge deal! his language skills really seem to be growing! ... slp in wa
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What a fantastic story Ali. I'm so proud of Simon! I teared up and got chills - and I don't even know you!
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GIRL - we had the SAME exact occurance last week. only i was out of town. so i got a phone call.. my daughter telling me.. "momma - we are MAD at wendy's! no chicken nuggets and NO CHEESE!" i had no idea what this meant - but my husband later explained - she got a plain hamburger instead. she tried it - without a meltdown! (we too have MAJOR meltdowns over food) she ended her meal, telling daddy - "we're mad at Wendys! we place dour order - and they got it wrong! we don't want to go there again, but if we do, i'll have a hamburger. but this time with cheese!" it was the first time she'd tried one! and that's right! Go for it!
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I feel ya! I remember when Parker would freak out like that over the little things. I remember the chicken nuggets only phase too. A friend of mine once noticed that Parker ate only yellow foods. Mac-n-cheese, Ramen noodles, Chicken nuggets, bread, corn (it was the ONLY veggie he'd eat), etc. I'm not sure if it was an autistic/texture thing or not. With the help of the "no thank you bite" he's come a long way. He actually likes to "try" everything we eat now. You've got good times ahead of you! :-)
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Congratulations!
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Oh wow Ali. My eyes welled up as I read this story, and I did a little happy dance (on the inside) for you! It hit so close to home. The whole food thing can be a real cause of stress if you let it, and it's moments like this that you can see the light at the end of the tunnel. I am so happy that a little speck of light shone through for you today.
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Congratulations!!!
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Go SIMON! And go Ali! So great that he handled not only a new food, but a surprise and change in a favorite routine with such calmness and good humor. I'll bet he's heard the words "go for it" at other times from other people--so exciting that he's internalizing them and using them to calm, encourage and express himself!
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I love that! I'm going to have to remember to "just go for it" a little more often!
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YEAH Simon!!
Congrats Ali!
Boy, you sure are a great writer. When you tell a story (like this one), you have me (literally) jumping for joy and smiling ever-so proudly right here in front of my computer!! [And then, my husband walk's by my office door, peeks his head in and say's, "jump a little higher, I don't think they saw you"!! ]
(you have no idea how hard I'm laughing right now...)
Anyway, fabulous news darlin'!!
GO FOR IT, SIMON!!
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This is a wonderful story. Thanks for sharing it Ali! AND I AM SO HAPPY for you guys! What a breakthough! Kim
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Congratulations!!
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That's really great! What a awesome moment for the both of you.
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hi ali :)
i felt really compelled to come by and read your blog tonight and now i know why!
oh how i long for the *okay i'll try it* day to come without the meltdown. thankyou for telling me that they do come.go simon go!
our beautiful 4yr old was diagnosed with autism this past tuesday.
love lusi x
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oh Ali, how wonderful it is! Here at home I have the same problem with my almost 3 yo, it is a battle! so happy to know that he tried the hamburger! yourblog wasn't loading for me either, glad it is back :) have a great weekend!
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Wow! I am pleased and I'm not even the one experiencing the parenting battles with Simon. I can relate, though, to the diet/food issues as I have a five year old sugar booger that makes every meal a negotiation. Way to go Simon and I feel his independence and self-control coming through your words. I love his, too. "I'll just go for it." What an inspirational statement from such a young man. Love it. Hope he continues to embrace situations by just "going for it"!
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Hi Ali,
I'm a speech-language pathologist and I work with kids with ASD. Your story was totally heart-warming to me. I love to hear those kinds of successes from parents. And I would have totally got out and done the happy dance (but doing it inside is just as good). Way to go!!!
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