"And I'll just go for it."
Tags:I had one of those experiences with Simon last night on our way to the swimming pool reminding me once again that he is just downright awesome.
Drive-through McDonald's is one of our things. We go through a pretty stable routine each time: ordering a Happy Meal for the toy (especially Kung Fu Panda toys - he and Chris saw the movie last weekend) and chicken nuggets; talking about the number one window + the number two window; choosing between OJ, chocolate milk, or the occasional Sierra Mist.
Let me step back a minute and preface this by saying we have been having some major food battles lately. I hate the word battle because that implies a winner and a loser...our goal is to get him to try something new at each meal and take one very small bite as a "no thank you" bite (along with getting some variety into his diet). Trust me, it has been one of the biggest challenges in our experience as parents.
Back to last night and the story at hand. I put in the regular order for a Happy Meal with chicken nuggets. After pulling out and heading down the road I hand the box back to him and he pulls out a cheeseburger. On past adventures this could have resulted in a major upset (or me simply turning around and going back to McDonald's to correct our order). I see the burger in the rearview mirror as I am checking the clock to see how much time we have to make it to the pool before the "sorry we are full" sign goes up. In the span of secondsI am wondering to myself which is going to be worse: not getting the expected chicken nuggets or not getting to swim?
But he didn't freak out.
"Hey, here's a hamburger," he said and started to pass it to me. No whining. No crying. No freaking out.
Somehow I managed to say, "How about trying that cheeseburger tonight?" I braced a bit as I waited for the issue to escalate.
He simply said, "Okay."
It was an "okay" in a super cheerful manner that demonstrated no indication of ever having issues with different foods. At that point I should have just pulled over and did the craziest celebration dance possible that he was even okay with the idea of opening the package let alone take a bite.
I tried super hard not to make a big deal about. "That sounds like a plan," I said as I peeked into the rear-view mirror to see if he was really going to actually for real take a bite. And he did. No big deal. No fanfare. No saying "this is gross." No protesting. Just a little nibble bite along the edge and then he set it back down on the plastic wrapper in his lap.
"Did you like it?" I asked?
"I did."
In my head I was freaking out. Holy cow this could be it. This could be the breakthrough we have been hoping for and working towards related to not making a huge deal out of trying a new food.
"Are you going to eat some more?"
"Yes. I like hamburgers."
We drove along and he munched on his french fries amidst telling me stories about the Higglytown Heroes episode he had been watching on the computer before leaving for the pool.
"Are you going to eat any more hamburger?" I asked as we continued on our way.
"Yes, I'll just go for it."
In reality he didn't even hit the meat, cheese, ketchup or anything except the bun.
But man, what a great start.
Go for it, Simon, go for it.

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That's great news! My son didn't eat pancakes until he was 12 and still has never had a hamburger! But, at least he loves all his veggies!
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How wonderful! Kids and food are always a challenge. My son will eat almost anything but on occasion he will boycott what's on his plate in favor of what's on someone else's! Or spit it out altogether.
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Several of our 5 children had issues with trying new foods. Our rule was you had to try one bite. In the case of mixed veggies, you could take out one kind of veggie but had to eat the rest. Anyway, they are all adults now and good 'eaters'. I think those 'bites of childhood' do help set the table for the future palate. Keep on enjoying those minor triumphs Ali!
Way to go Simon!
Sue
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OH Ali, that's just so freakin awesome!!
YAY SIMON!!!!
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What a GREAT STORY and one I can relate too!!!
my son also is on the spectrum and we haven't gotten to the point were he is much into trying "new" foods. I can totally relate to your story, it's a great feeling when something GREAT like that happens to our kids.
Great job Simon.
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Hi Ali! Great news on the cheeseburger. My son is the same way!
On a side note, what kind of camera are using to snap all of your beautiful family memories? I have always loved your style, but know that good equipment is essential too!
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I feel your food/child/battle pain. My 6 yr old is the same way and the freaking out is definitely anticipated on my part.
It's amazing how each little success means SO MUCH!
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ALLELUIA, ALI!!!!
So very happy for you and for Simon on this development!
Your love and patience are bearing fruit.
Only other parents can really GET these challenges, and we all get it, Ali! You are loved and supported.
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I have to tell you as I was reading your story, I was on the edge of my seat just hoping he took that first bite! Congratulations to Simon! This steps may seem small to some, but in reality are down right HUGE! I am just giddy for you!!!
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oh I am so happy for you and Simon! that is a breakthrough!!! thank you for sharing your story :)
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YEAH Simon!
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Oh that razor edge of trying to stay calm and cool, no big deal, but knowing that this IS a big WOOHOO deal.
You touch all our hearts so much when you share these Simon moments. Thank you.
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way to go simon! {ali and chris too}...
hugs to you all...from the philippines :)
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I wish I had time to read all the comments but just want to tell you how much I enjoy the Simon stories! I come here every day (usually from work with eyes glazed over from writing code) craving the art, the design, the how-to's and the inspiration but when I see a Simon story, I know I'm in for a special treat!
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Ali, I was just watching the Ellen show, not sure you watch, but there is a little girl in Kentucky who sells braclets to raise money for Autism. You can buy the bracelets on Ellen's website. Just thought you would like to check it out!
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Amazing--go for it is right! Woohoo!
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Eyes welled up with tears of joy and my heart is pounding for you girlfriend.
It is great to be a MOM!
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What an awesome story. Thank you for sharing. What a great reminder that we just need to go for it! I can think of some many times and on so many levels how I could use this post as inspiration. Way to go Simon!
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that's so awesome.
for all of you!
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I am so very happy for you. I think that all parents can appreciate that these little battles really have huge impact on our lives. Another step showing that your little boy is geting bigger. Well done you.
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