The Evolution Of My Story

Is it weird that a stranger like myself feels majorly bummed and heartbroken? Then knowing that is only a sliver of how you must feel pains my heart. Like many have said, your open style and ease at sharing your life has been like an invitation to many of us into your life. And we respect, admire and feel so loyal to you. I feel like wishing you peace during this time is the understatement of the year. I wish you good friends, many shared bottles of wine, loads of laughter, your parents strong arms to lift you when you feel you cannot bear any more and your words to mark the passage of time and to document the good/bad/ugly.

You are a really amazing and uplifting person. I know that your loyal friends, family and internet community will rise to rally with you through the next season of change and opportunity. My heartfelt wishes for a wonderful holiday are with you as well as my prayer for contentment and joy in the coming days.

I am sorry that this is happening. I'm praying for you and your children, that your hearts will find peace and healing.

Your an amazing woman who has enriched and enspired so many of us. It may not always be easy but you will get through this.

Ali,
Remember that families come in all shapes and sizes. You and your children are loved and there will always be love for Chris as well. You get to define your story not be defined by it. Love, peace and blessings to you and your beautiful children.
-WO

"Our heartfelt intent is to maintain a positive relationship as we move forward in our lives."

This is so important.

Best wishes to you. Sending you a warm hug!

Ali

My hope is that you, Chris and your beautiful children travel this new and difficult path with patience. As I too had to travel this road, my former partner and I made this our focus because we once loved each other greatly and our son was born from that great love. As the years passed and the hurt eased we managed raise a wonderful man who never witnessed our anger or heard a negative word about the other parent. We have a truly blessed relationship both with each other and our new spouses.

You have a generous spirit and a gracious heart. Because of this you will not only grow from this trial but thrive and so will your children.

Ali, you and your family are in my prayers during this time. I love that you have continued to celebrate joy even in the midst of your life's current challenges. You are an amazing woman!

Wishing you peace and joy as every bend in the road reveals a new discovery for you. And keeping all of you in my prayers.

I've been there. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I have to tell you from my own experience, life gets better, yes better, after such seemingly negative experiences.
Love to you.
Carolyn

So many of us are holding you and your children up in our prayers. Keep it real and know we are here for you. Many great things are still being prepared for you. I have always appreciated your honestly. I am always sorry when divorce happens. I have experienced it but you keep going and growing.

May you find strength when things are hard, peace when life is stressful, and comfort when you are sad. When you've made it through this, you might like this quote from Curly Girl Design:

"After all that - she was surprised to find that she still knew the words to the song in her heart . . . and she Began to sing along."

Thank you again for the inspiration you continue to provide every day.

Carole

Ali, you are awesome! You have given me so much through your blog and your classes. I hope that you can feel all the love and strength from so many who want you to be well and happy. We are behind you, holding you up. Peace to you and your family.

xo.

Dear sweet soulful Ali, first of all, you're truly a beautiful inspiration & strong soul. Likewise, experiencing divorce in my life 6 years ago was a very difficult pain, shock, and emotional process...it sometimes still comes back as fresh as day one...but the journey is a bittersweet one where you will see the light and grow stronger. Promise.

I send you MANY hugs, beautiful thoughts, and love for you & your children to get through it all. I agree we all have days where life is definitely not rosy & grand, and we must document it all.

Continue to inspire & find the best therapy through creativity! TRUST ME, it is the best therapy, I'm a living example.

Wendy

You, and your family, are in my thoughts. Your grace is inspiring. I have no doubt that your stories will continue to be focused on JOY....

Oh Ali-- I had a feeling something like this was happening. My first husband and I divorced about 20 years ago, so I can say from personal experience that you are SPOT ON when you said that you have a new chapter in your life to look forward too. You send out so much joy into the world, I know that good things are on their way to you! :-)
"Here is the world. Beautiful and terrible things will happen. Don't be afraid." -- Frederick Buechner
You are loved by so many Ali.
Your Friend,
Jill

Ali, I'm just so, so sorry. My heart breaks for you. Thinking of you and praying for you. Sincerely and with tears.

Wishing you peace during this difficult time. Thank you for sharing your life with us.

Life is always challenging, get yourself into therapy. It is the best way to talk to someone on a regular basis and start the healing process of your loss.

Yes, Chris is still alive, and YES you have your family to attend to daily, but it is a loss.

So few people look at divorce as a grieving process and if they did, we would be much healthier.

A friend or family member can only tolerate so much of listening, as they too are grieving, so get a neutral person, who is only there to listen and help you through the steps.

Also, with all due respect, don't publish your inner thoughts and feelings for the WORLD to see. Keep a private journal.

Love starts with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends in a tear.

My prayers with you and your family...
hugs
Neelu