Counting blessings.
Tags:Thanks for all the nice comments on the Christmas book - glad so many of you will be aiming for a simple Christmas this year too! A couple people asked about journaling - since you know I am all about the story - I am planning to add journaling either right onto the photos (by computer or pen) or I will replace a circle or two depending on how much I want to say.
The circle punch I used was 2 1/8. Right now there is just one sheet of cardstock in each sleeve. I am thinking I may just use it that way and add the photos in onto the back of the circles.
The quote on the cover is from the 7gypsies sticker sheet called Joy (sticker componet# 17294-A).
COUNTING BLESSINGS
So many things to be thankful for this year. It has been a year of tremendous change for our family. Crazy, wonderful, heart-wrenching, amazing...all those emotions and so much more wrapped into 12 little months. We learned of Simon's autism. One chapter closing in Chris' career and another one opening. We moved. I became the breadwinner.
I am so thankful that we are where we are. That each one of us is here to celebrate with one another. That Chris is pursuing his passion. That Simon is progressing. That I am able to wake up and love what I am doing every single day - even when I am so busy I can barely breathe.
I am thankful for all the people that have come into my lives because of scrapbooking. I am thankful that they continue to stick with me even when I disappear for awhile in the midst of work and family. I am thankful for all the kindness that has been shown to me from scrapbookers all over the world. Thank you for taking the time to connect with me, for sharing stories from your own lives.
I am thankful for my parents and all the support they have given Chris and I. We could not have made all these changes without them.
I am thankful for art. For the opportunity to create. To focus on things that matter to me. To explore and experiment and communicate through a variety of means.
I am thankful for generous understanding & patience from so many people in my lives.
Loved this article from Yoga Journal about selfless gratitude.
And I am thankful that we are back in the city of Eugene. Simon and I went to the library this morning for his first library card. Eugene has a BEAUTIFUL library that we did not have access to from our old home. I have been wanting to do this ever since we moved back to town.
Since he is so into helping right now, I gave Simon a basket to carry - one that he could put books in as he chose which ones he wanted to bring home. We walked in and up to the desk. The woman at the desk was moderately friendly. She looked tired. I had all my necessary documents proving that we now live in the city limits.
While she was plugging in all the info Simon was chattering and whining and walking in circles in the large rountunda that greets patrons when they enter the library. I have always found it tough to talk to someone and watch Simon at the same time...and standing still next to me is not really his strong point.
The woman behind the counter heard me call Simon by name as I tried to corral him back over to me (enticing him with something from my purse that would never prove as interesting as the stairs) and then she said to him something to the effect of, "Simon, we need to be quiet in here and not run around. The sound echos up to the other floors." She said this to him as he was walking away, in one of those tones that demonstrates she has forgotten what it is like to have a child in tow.
My response to her was kind, "I am sorry. He has autism. I don't think he will probably understand what you are telling him."
That pretty much stopped her grouchy attitude right there. "I am sorry," she said. "I had no idea."
From there on out she was very nice to him. Encouraging him while he scribbled lines all over his new card - his signature at 3 years old. She told him what a great job he was doing. He told her "thank you" after a bit of prompting and we were on our way into the world of books.
That was the first time I have said that to someone in that manner before. I imgaine it was a reminder to her, as it was to me, that appearances are not always the only signal of something deeper. That we need to have patience and understanding and compassion for all people.
I want to be the kind of parent that sets a good example for Simon. That sets boundaries and teaches him to behave (to the best of his ability) in a variety of situations. But I also know his limits right now and what he is and is not really capable of at this time. I also know which battles to choose.
A totally interesting experience to say the least.
So hug your families. Have patience with your relatives. Give a little compassion and understanding. And have a very wonderfulThanksgiving.

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What a beautiful entry. I hope that you, Chris and Simon have a great day tomorrow and that your life continues to bring you so much joy!
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Thanks for the reminders.
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Compassion & understanding....ABSOLUTELY! Happy Turkey Day!
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Ali....
Your journaling leaves me in awe every single time!! Wishing you and your family a very blessed Thanksgiving!!
Natalie T.
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kudos to you for telling her. It's always difficult when it is playing out in your head "should I, or should I not say something". I have had to only a handful of times. while you do want your child to adapt to society, we need society to adapt slightly to our children with autism.
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I loved reading this entry. It was a reminder of how we all need to show compassion and understanding to one another, regardless of what our circumstances are. Thank you for reminding us to be thankful for the little things and the great big things.
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Hey Ali-
Loved your entry today - all parts of it...the thanks giving, the first library card story... and I just have to share that my daughter (my 3rd child) just turned 4, does not have autism, but is also too loud and active wherever she goes-library included. I usually get the sympathetic smiles and even people who genuinely enjoy watching her but there are others who show disapproval - I'm happy that you spoke up and that the librarian was receptive...but I am a little sad that it took that for her to be nice. Have a wonderfully blessed Thanksgiving holiday!
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Hey Ali,
Well, my eyes have welled up after reading your entry. You just have such a way with words. I don't even know you but in a strange way I feel proud of you - you have a magnificent soul.
Bless your heart.
Have a beautiful holiday,
Alexandra
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Thank you for the inspiration. As my husband and I (and kiddies) are on the cusp of a Thanksgiving dinner with "family" of 26, your words about patience and understanding resonated with me. I spent the last hour making hand made place cards, playing, enjoying the process, and it did occur to me that the effort may go unappreciated. Your blog somehow makes it not worth worrying about... I enjoyed stamping, painting, etc. That's what matters. My husband enjoys all the cooking. Yes, he does it all. And, I am there for support. Mainly cutting potatoes. So, all the quips and comments that "family" do make at events such as this..... well, it just doesn't matter. At least we are all together. Thank for you for the reminder. I hope you are your family have a wonderful Thanksgiving. What a great "mom" you are. Hang in there! :)
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Happy thankful giving :-)
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What a wonderful Thanksgiving Message.
Thank you.
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Ali,
You seem to have such insight and wisdom, at such a young age. I'm really inspired. Thanks so much for taking the time to share with us. I hope you and your family have a wonderful Thanskgiving!
Sincerely,
Tina
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Ali,
So glad to hear that your move to Eugene has been a good one and that you are embracing it.
I'm glad your experience at the library was a learning and growing experience for you, the lady at the desk, and anyone else who might have been within ear-shot or watching the situation and making judgments without knowledge. Never be afraid to speak up on Simon's behalf or your own!
"So hug your families. Have patience with your relatives. Give a little compassion and understanding." -- With all the craziness surrounding me at the moment, this was just the message I needed to be reminded of and one I might use on a friend or two in the next week [Hughes-ey, are you listening?]. And, I'm sure I'll need to be reminded myself of this several times and in lots of different situations over the next 20 years!
Have a great Thanksgiving!
--Michele
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Thanks Ali for the inspiring blog today. I have been lurking on your blog for sometime after discovering your book.
I'm so glad you spoke up to the librarian about your son's autism. Sometimes people just need to be gently reminded that appearances aren't always as they seem. Myself included sometimes. My son was adopted and even though my situation is very different from yours I have had people say things like 'where does he get that red hair?' or 'why don't you have any more children?'. I usually speak up about it and it really is amazing how it helps.
Thanks again for sharing and inspiring us!
Amy
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Ali, You are an utterly incredible individual. You are my fav scrapbook personality because of your heart that shines so bright in all that you do. Have a blessed Thanksgiving.
Thankful for your courage to be yourself.
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Thank you, Ali. Blessings on you and yours.
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Although it's past midnight something was compelling me to check out your blog tonight after this emotionally exhausting and seemingly unfulfilling day. I'm so glad I did. Somewhere in your blog in between the lines I found a reminder about appreciating life--not sweating the small stuff--remembering to put things in perspective and appreciating and enjoying the journey. Something which I used to do really well but have been miserable at lately. Thank you for the reminder and the release of tears that I needed all day...
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A, you of all people deserve a wonderfully relaxing Thanksgiving, I hope you get to recharge, reflect and enjoy those around you. And please give Simon a big hug for me. I am so glad he has you for his mom.
Kah-Mei
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we need to have patience and understanding and compassion for all people. perfect. you always hit it.
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I experienced something yesterday while out. My Abbey was talking to a little girl her exact same age but Abbey still cannot communiate as well as other 4 yr olds. I noticed the expression on the face of the childs mother whcn they asked how old Abbey was. That look of "your 4 too and you still talk like a baby" We get that alot and sometime I have to tell about her speech delay. Sometimes I just don't and let her carry on her little conversation the best way she can.
Give Simon hugs from Abbey. I wish yall a very blessed Thanksgiving.
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