Counting blessings.
Tags:Thanks for all the nice comments on the Christmas book - glad so many of you will be aiming for a simple Christmas this year too! A couple people asked about journaling - since you know I am all about the story - I am planning to add journaling either right onto the photos (by computer or pen) or I will replace a circle or two depending on how much I want to say.
The circle punch I used was 2 1/8. Right now there is just one sheet of cardstock in each sleeve. I am thinking I may just use it that way and add the photos in onto the back of the circles.
The quote on the cover is from the 7gypsies sticker sheet called Joy (sticker componet# 17294-A).
COUNTING BLESSINGS
So many things to be thankful for this year. It has been a year of tremendous change for our family. Crazy, wonderful, heart-wrenching, amazing...all those emotions and so much more wrapped into 12 little months. We learned of Simon's autism. One chapter closing in Chris' career and another one opening. We moved. I became the breadwinner.
I am so thankful that we are where we are. That each one of us is here to celebrate with one another. That Chris is pursuing his passion. That Simon is progressing. That I am able to wake up and love what I am doing every single day - even when I am so busy I can barely breathe.
I am thankful for all the people that have come into my lives because of scrapbooking. I am thankful that they continue to stick with me even when I disappear for awhile in the midst of work and family. I am thankful for all the kindness that has been shown to me from scrapbookers all over the world. Thank you for taking the time to connect with me, for sharing stories from your own lives.
I am thankful for my parents and all the support they have given Chris and I. We could not have made all these changes without them.
I am thankful for art. For the opportunity to create. To focus on things that matter to me. To explore and experiment and communicate through a variety of means.
I am thankful for generous understanding & patience from so many people in my lives.
Loved this article from Yoga Journal about selfless gratitude.
And I am thankful that we are back in the city of Eugene. Simon and I went to the library this morning for his first library card. Eugene has a BEAUTIFUL library that we did not have access to from our old home. I have been wanting to do this ever since we moved back to town.
Since he is so into helping right now, I gave Simon a basket to carry - one that he could put books in as he chose which ones he wanted to bring home. We walked in and up to the desk. The woman at the desk was moderately friendly. She looked tired. I had all my necessary documents proving that we now live in the city limits.
While she was plugging in all the info Simon was chattering and whining and walking in circles in the large rountunda that greets patrons when they enter the library. I have always found it tough to talk to someone and watch Simon at the same time...and standing still next to me is not really his strong point.
The woman behind the counter heard me call Simon by name as I tried to corral him back over to me (enticing him with something from my purse that would never prove as interesting as the stairs) and then she said to him something to the effect of, "Simon, we need to be quiet in here and not run around. The sound echos up to the other floors." She said this to him as he was walking away, in one of those tones that demonstrates she has forgotten what it is like to have a child in tow.
My response to her was kind, "I am sorry. He has autism. I don't think he will probably understand what you are telling him."
That pretty much stopped her grouchy attitude right there. "I am sorry," she said. "I had no idea."
From there on out she was very nice to him. Encouraging him while he scribbled lines all over his new card - his signature at 3 years old. She told him what a great job he was doing. He told her "thank you" after a bit of prompting and we were on our way into the world of books.
That was the first time I have said that to someone in that manner before. I imgaine it was a reminder to her, as it was to me, that appearances are not always the only signal of something deeper. That we need to have patience and understanding and compassion for all people.
I want to be the kind of parent that sets a good example for Simon. That sets boundaries and teaches him to behave (to the best of his ability) in a variety of situations. But I also know his limits right now and what he is and is not really capable of at this time. I also know which battles to choose.
A totally interesting experience to say the least.
So hug your families. Have patience with your relatives. Give a little compassion and understanding. And have a very wonderfulThanksgiving.

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Thank you for sharing this story with us. We all need to just take a deep breath, and have a little more patience...every day. Thank you for the reminder. May your family have a blessed Thanksgiving weekend.
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My family is visiting me for the holiday. Tonight I showed them various scrapbooks, but the one they all lingered over was my "Week in the Life" album from your CKU-A class in Dallas. I even saw my mom go back and re-read all the emails I'd printed out and put in there as memorabilia. My sister remarked "now that's exactly what a scrapbook is supposed to be."
So, Ali, this year I'd like to add YOU to my list of gratitudes on Thanksgiving Day. Thanks for inspiring me to become a better scrapper; thanks for your blog and book and amazing layouts; and thanks for sharing your life with so many in so many places! You are a blessing.
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What an elegantly passionate entry. Nothing unique to say; thanks so much for the reminder. Happy Turkey day!
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Hey Ali. I am a "lurker" on your blog - have been for quite some time now - but I just wanted to say what an amazing entry I thought this was. I think Simon is truly blessed to have you and Chris as parents, and I love the way that you face challenges (especially ones like grumpy librarians, which would have just irritated me and probably made me mad) with courage, positivity and compassion. I am a 23-year-old who is just getting into scrapping, which is how I found your blog, but your words of wisdom are helping me to grow in a lot more ways than just creatively. We don't have Thanksgiving here in New Zealand, but I hope you & yours have a truly enjoyable one!
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happy thanksgiving :)
beautiful entry!
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Thanks for these simple reminders!
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Ali - thank you for telling the librarian about Simon. How often do I pre-judge someone on appearances only - so unfair. Thank you.
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It is so great to hear you are settling into your new place. And I really like the message in your story about the lady at the library. We all need to take something from that story and use it to be better people and treat others with more kindness and compassion. You sound like you handled it very well!
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Simply beautiful! your entry about Simon brought tears to my eyes. He is lucky to have you as a mom. You are kind and patient and love your little boy with all you have to give. So wonderful!
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Thank you for another moving entry. Your mother did a wonderful job in raising you and you are doing a wonderful job with Simon. You have helped me to slow down today and see what is important.
Thank You.
Judy
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You are an incredible person, Ali. Thank you for being so real.
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thank you for always inspiring...you show us all that in life we will all deal with what life has to offer us...and believing in the unit of the family unit...makes it all right in the big circle.
thank you again for inspiring!
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Ali -
I am so glad you stood up for Simon. I know too many kids with parents who just wouldn't have cared enough to do that. Good for you. And a great reminder that we all need to keep our kids' best interest at heart - even if it means confronting someone head on.
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ali,
happy thanksgiving! thanks for sharing that story. i'm always reminding myself that people are not necessarily what they appear to be. you never know when you'll cross paths with an austic little boy, a recent widow or someone else with worries that are not so obvious.
and thanks for sharing your Christmas album. i was looking for an idea for a gift for my sister and I loved yours so much, that I did one for myself as well. check it out, if you get a chance: http://www.twopeasinabucket.com/pg.asp?gallery=1&cmd=display&layout_id=707918.
hope your holiday was great.
marci
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Oh Ali, thank you for this post. My little brother (almost 27) was diagnosed with autism at age 12. He too would walk in circles and have fixations on things. Autism is so difficult because people don't understand. My brother has no defects to his appearance so people would think he is this dugged out person. Thank goodness people now have an idea what autism is. Back then strangers thought I was saying he was artistic! You are such a good mom to explain to the grouchy librarian so kindly. You certainly caused her to do a paradigm shift. I haven't gotten to read all your posts on autism, but some very inspiring reading on the subject is by Temple Grandin.
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Ali, I'm a lurker and have to say that I love keeping up on your site. Your journaling today reminded me of my birthday dinner out with my family last week. We went to Red Lobster and as we were sitting there eating, a little boy, probably about Simon's age, walked by our table and placed a lobster claw on my brother's dinner plate. Shocked, and amazed, we all just stared at his plate, trying to figure out what happened. The young boy and his parents were on their way out of the restaurant as he decided to deposit his dinner toy onto my brother's plate. George, my brother, got up from the table and confronted the young boy's family. Turns out, as the father calmly explained, the little boy had autism and was completely unaware of what he did. That was my first experiece with an autistic child (not that I experienced it first-hand), but it made me think of you and the many other mothers I have come to know (not necessarily with you knowing me) throught this world of scrapbooking. I can only imagine the trials of raising a child with autism, but I admire you and many others for having embraced this challenge in such a way that it encourages and intrigues me to know so much more. Thank you for sharing your story with us.
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Beautiful entry Ali, I have a child with a difference too, and he loves the library !
take care
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Hi Ali, Your story about the library really hits home with me as well.. my oldest daughter has cerebral palsy and isn't verbal. I have had people talk louder, lean in closer... trying to get her to answer them - they question so many things about her, wanting to know what's wrong with her, why she wears glasses and braces and so forth. I can tell you that being her mom has it's most challenging moments and also the moments that put you to the top of the world. Children with special needs are such a special gift, even when the gift might not be right in front of your face. It puts life into perspective. It is a whole new world that you never knew existed, that you never thought you would be a part of. Thank you for sharing these moments with all of us.
Love your work, Ali - you are an inspiration for me. I love your sense of style and design. I love your sense of life. :)
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What a beautiful post Ali! It brought tears to my eyes - reading what you said to that lady at the library. So many times, when we are in public, people look at me weird or think I'm a bad mom due to the way Madi is acting. She gets to upset when I don't pick her up everything she wants in Target and people just think her behaviour is crazy. I admire you for saying something and for the tone in which you said it in. Sometimes I just want to yell at people and tell them not to judge her or me, that she has autism. I love ya girl! Hope you had a great thanksgiving and thanks for such a touching message!
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What a beautiful post Ali! It brought tears to my eyes - reading what you said to that lady at the library. So many times, when we are in public, people look at me weird or think I'm a bad mom due to the way Madi is acting. She gets to upset when I don't pick her up everything she wants in Target and people just think her behaviour is crazy. I admire you for saying something and for the tone in which you said it in. Sometimes I just want to yell at people and tell them not to judge her or me, that she has autism. I need to keep my patience too! I love ya girl! Hope you had a great thanksgiving and thanks for such a touching message!
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