Counting blessings.
Tags:Thanks for all the nice comments on the Christmas book - glad so many of you will be aiming for a simple Christmas this year too! A couple people asked about journaling - since you know I am all about the story - I am planning to add journaling either right onto the photos (by computer or pen) or I will replace a circle or two depending on how much I want to say.
The circle punch I used was 2 1/8. Right now there is just one sheet of cardstock in each sleeve. I am thinking I may just use it that way and add the photos in onto the back of the circles.
The quote on the cover is from the 7gypsies sticker sheet called Joy (sticker componet# 17294-A).
COUNTING BLESSINGS
So many things to be thankful for this year. It has been a year of tremendous change for our family. Crazy, wonderful, heart-wrenching, amazing...all those emotions and so much more wrapped into 12 little months. We learned of Simon's autism. One chapter closing in Chris' career and another one opening. We moved. I became the breadwinner.
I am so thankful that we are where we are. That each one of us is here to celebrate with one another. That Chris is pursuing his passion. That Simon is progressing. That I am able to wake up and love what I am doing every single day - even when I am so busy I can barely breathe.
I am thankful for all the people that have come into my lives because of scrapbooking. I am thankful that they continue to stick with me even when I disappear for awhile in the midst of work and family. I am thankful for all the kindness that has been shown to me from scrapbookers all over the world. Thank you for taking the time to connect with me, for sharing stories from your own lives.
I am thankful for my parents and all the support they have given Chris and I. We could not have made all these changes without them.
I am thankful for art. For the opportunity to create. To focus on things that matter to me. To explore and experiment and communicate through a variety of means.
I am thankful for generous understanding & patience from so many people in my lives.
Loved this article from Yoga Journal about selfless gratitude.
And I am thankful that we are back in the city of Eugene. Simon and I went to the library this morning for his first library card. Eugene has a BEAUTIFUL library that we did not have access to from our old home. I have been wanting to do this ever since we moved back to town.
Since he is so into helping right now, I gave Simon a basket to carry - one that he could put books in as he chose which ones he wanted to bring home. We walked in and up to the desk. The woman at the desk was moderately friendly. She looked tired. I had all my necessary documents proving that we now live in the city limits.
While she was plugging in all the info Simon was chattering and whining and walking in circles in the large rountunda that greets patrons when they enter the library. I have always found it tough to talk to someone and watch Simon at the same time...and standing still next to me is not really his strong point.
The woman behind the counter heard me call Simon by name as I tried to corral him back over to me (enticing him with something from my purse that would never prove as interesting as the stairs) and then she said to him something to the effect of, "Simon, we need to be quiet in here and not run around. The sound echos up to the other floors." She said this to him as he was walking away, in one of those tones that demonstrates she has forgotten what it is like to have a child in tow.
My response to her was kind, "I am sorry. He has autism. I don't think he will probably understand what you are telling him."
That pretty much stopped her grouchy attitude right there. "I am sorry," she said. "I had no idea."
From there on out she was very nice to him. Encouraging him while he scribbled lines all over his new card - his signature at 3 years old. She told him what a great job he was doing. He told her "thank you" after a bit of prompting and we were on our way into the world of books.
That was the first time I have said that to someone in that manner before. I imgaine it was a reminder to her, as it was to me, that appearances are not always the only signal of something deeper. That we need to have patience and understanding and compassion for all people.
I want to be the kind of parent that sets a good example for Simon. That sets boundaries and teaches him to behave (to the best of his ability) in a variety of situations. But I also know his limits right now and what he is and is not really capable of at this time. I also know which battles to choose.
A totally interesting experience to say the least.
So hug your families. Have patience with your relatives. Give a little compassion and understanding. And have a very wonderfulThanksgiving.

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thank you, thank you, thank you. i loved all that you had to say, but i need you to know that tonight i am thankful for you......for saing just what i needed to hear. "have patience with your relatives." that is something that i'm not very good at so thank you for the suggestion and that will be something that i work on.
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Beautiful!
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Happy T-day Ali!
You did the right thing--good for you. May you have a restful holiday with your boys!
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thanks for this wonderful reminder. so so true.
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Hi Ali love your entry. With anthony having PDD-NOS I so completly understand what your saying. It is so true that many people judge him on the outside. Having a very low self-esteem is a part of those reactions. I to wish that people would react differently. So I love how you made the comment about Simon having Autism and the womans direct change off behaviour. Wanted to wish you a perfect thanksgiving!!
corinnexxx
ps that x-mas album rocks!!!
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It's always a pleasure to read you !!! Thanks for this post ! I love your Christmas album !!! Big hugs
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Womderful entry Ali, have a wonderful Thanksgiving with you and your family.
xoxox Alette
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Ali -what an amazing entry. Very touching and deep.
Thank YOU for inspiring, *for creating*, and for giving so much of yourself to the world! I admire your strength, determination and enormous sense keeping things real. What a great example you are indeed.
I am wishing an amazing THANKSGIVING for you and your loved ones today. THANK YOU again.
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Beautiful. Inspiring. Uplifting. I totally believe that God has handpicked YOU to be Simon's mom. What an inspiration you are to not only artists and scrapbookers but to autistic families as well. You have opened a door for people to be more aware of autism. A few months ago I started a new job as the school nurse. When I was introducing myself to the 50 teachers @ a staff meeting, for some reason I felt compelled to add on "...and I have a 5 year old son Vincent who is autistic. Please feel free to ask me anything or if there is something I could help you with understanding autism let me know..." It was the first time that I had ever spoken "in public" about Vince's autism. It felt so good to say it. And so many teachers have come up to me wanting more info on autism. Thank you for inspiring me yet again. High five for Simon for saying "thank you". Blessings to you and Chris for being wonderful parents. Happy Thanksgiving!
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Ali,
thank you for such an inspiring Thanksgiving message. thank you for taking the time of writing those down. it's totally food for thoughts for me. you have no earthly idea of how much people's lives you have touched. i hope to meet you someday. have a thanksgiving to you, chris and simon!
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Happy Thanksgiving Ali to you and your family. Being a teacher for over 30 years,I've been around several children who have had various stages of Autism and I know how much extra care it takes and I have no doubt that you and your husband will be wonderful role models for your son. It sounds like you all are doing what you really want to do with your life which is rare as so many of us do what we "think" we should sometimes, rather than what we want to do.
Have a wonderful day!
Kip
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A- what can I say other than you are amazing! Love your down to earth and ever so thankful self!!! You are truly blessed girl and lots to be thankful for. Comforting to know that you are so thankful. But you have worked hard to be where you are today. And your hard work and heartfelt things have gotten you this far. And it is only going to get better girl! Love the pics of the crop and the book! WTG! TFS!!
I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving!! Rori Koch
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i bet that was hard ali. having to say it out loud, to a stranger....feeling possibly embarassed or mad about it. you did good though. :)
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amazing entry Ali...so glad to hear that your move to Eugene has been such a good experience. I'm just so sorry that in our society it sometimes takes an explaination in a situation to get some understanding and compassion.
Hope your Thanksgiving is filled with good food, love, laughter and amazing memories:)
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Thank you. Best to you and your family.
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Happy Thanksgiving, Ali! I loved your entry from today...so great that you have so many things to be thankful for. I hope you and your family have a blessed holiday. I hope you get much needed time to relax and enjoy each other.
Your story about the library is awesome. Kudos to you for standing up and saying something. I know it must have been hard, but the end result was amazing, I'm sure. Glad that Simon loved his library experience...he will go far if he develops a love of reading now. Ü
Happy Thanksgiving!
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Ali,
I love to read your entries and I am thankful (although Canadian and not celebrating Thnaksgiving today) that you share with all of us.
This woman at the library was out of line to talk to anyone's child in this manner. You handled it beautifully and I bet (hope) you have made her more aware of how she speaks to children, overall. Thank you from many mothers!
Have a wonderful Thanksgiving day!
Jenn N
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Ali,
As I am wont to do, I read the blogs of my wife's friends when I sit down at the computer. This entry got me a bit teary-eyed but moreso inspired in several ways. I'm happy and proud for you for speaking up. Doing so not only diffused the situation but greatly enhanced it for all three of you. This simple communication of something that could not otherwise have been known by the woman at the library opened her up and probably made her day. I will remember this in my days serving coffee to hundreds of people, working with dozens of employees and living with those in my own house.
Thanks Ali,
Dan Z.
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I hope you, Chris & Simon have a wonderful Thanksgiving!!!
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Thank you for sharing~it was beautiful reminder! May God bless you and yours with wonderful days!
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